Get Over the What-Ifs

What if I look silly?

Fierce Falcons Shot

Fierce Falcons Shot

What if the porcelain china breaks?

Jumping for Joy and Excessive Sugar

Jumping for Joy and Excessive Sugar

What if people don’t understand what I am trying to say?

Silly parental picture

Silly parental picture

What if we can’t speak the language?

Festive Mask

Festive Mask

What if the birthmother changes her mind?

Deep in Festive Thought

Deep in Festive Thought

What if my kid wears something that doesn’t match?


Manly Fierce Falcons

Get over the what-ifs…they are holding you back.

Follow His calling and live in the Light.

"The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it." John 1:5

“The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.” John 1:5

*Pictures from Joyful’s birthday celebration. The theme was masquerade party!

Mother’s Day



“Good for you!”
“They are so blessed to have you as their parents.”

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Is adoption seen as a charity cause?

Is it only the adopted children who benefit from it?


I am a mother to 4 children.


It doesn’t matter to me how they became my children. What’s significant to me is that God called me to be responsible for them.


What a blessing, what a challenge!

I rest in my Savior for my ever lacking skills.

And pray grace & mercy.

Take a moment to listen to this song.

Whether you are pregnant, miscarried, have children in the home or grown up, Happy Mother’s Day!


5 Reasons We Adopted Domestically

I’ll be clear,

these are some of our reasons,

but that doesn’t mean they are absolute.

Rather at the stage we were in,

we felt these were some of the main reasons

God was calling us to adopt domestically.


It may be different for others.

But I hope this will spur you on

as you consider adoption.


There’s Always Hope.

1. We felt deeply called to follow the Bible’s reference to

serve and carry the burden of our neighbors.

We felt comfortable calling all Americans our neighbors.

It’s the idea of a community.

Mark 12:31 (NIV) says,

“The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ ”


My superheroes

2. We felt called to minister to our own country.

While we firmly believe that we need to care about internationals,

we also have a duty to aid those closest to us,

ie. other Americans.


Sea turtle & the Third

3. With my husband serving in the military,

it’s easier to adopt domestically where there’s no international travel.

Many military personnel adopt overseas,

however it it a more extensive process

and we wanted forego any extra hurdles at the time.


The fabulous four picnicking outside.

4. We really prayed that we could meet the birthmother

and learn our child’s history, so we could pass it on.

It is easier to have an open adoption in America

than in other countries.


Caught in mid-action high-five

5. Simply, it was easier and more “achievable”.

I put the parentheses there because anything is possible with the Lord.

We truly felt that at the stage of life we were in,


marriage wise,

and community wise,

domestic adoption was for us.


Sweet Cheeks sporting her sister’s hair cap.

Lord willing, we’ll adopt again.

And what will it be like?

Where will we be called to adopt?

Only the Lord knows.

3 Ways to Research Domestic Adoptions



God blessed us with our son through adoption.

So you’ve decided on adopting domestically,

here comes the fun part,

what do you do next?

Who do you contact?

What’s the cheapest way to adopt?

“I don’t care who, what, when, where, I just know God is calling me to adopt.”

So how do I adopt?


One of my favorite pictures of our daughter Joyful.

1. Check locally first.

Call up Crisis Pregnancy Centers.

Drop off a personal family profile (contact information included!)

to local hospitals, OB/GYNs, and women’s shelters.


In 2010, our newly arrived family of 5!

2. Research the different ways to adopt domestically:

a. fostering to adopt through the state

b. adopting through a private adoption lawyer

c. working with a birthmother facilitator

d. signing up with an adoption agency

* If you are medically infertile, look into catholic charities

and other organizations who facilitate adoptions at less cost.

There are pros and cons to all of these.


Credit: Ali Mocabee/

3. Talk with others who’ve adopted.

If you don’t know anyone who has, google.

Usually once you meet one person who has adopted,

they have contacts with others as well!

Feel free to email me.

Two day old Joyful

5 Ways to Save for Adoption

If you have ever looked into adoption,

whether domestic or international,

you will realize it’s more than just a kid needing a home.

It’s a business.


Sisters for life!

And with this business

comes expenses..

sometimes, lots of them!


Every kid wants to be free to enjoy the park!

It’s dreadful to try to reduce adoption to a business

but instead of the church and the unpaid compassionate

striving to find a home for any kid that needs it,

there are professions whose sole job is to facilitate adoptions.

So here are 5 ways you can save for adoption!

1. Utilize free tools to save extra money


Checkout 51


Retail Me Not

Ebates is available on your computer but also has an app as well as Retail Me Not.

Checkout 51 and Ibotta work with your smart phone and have an app to be downloaded for free.

Also if you shop at Target and have a smart phone, check out Target’s regular app and look at the coupon section.

Also download the Target cartwheel app which has additional coupons or discounts.

They are all user friendly and as long as you stick with what you intended to buy, it’ll save you money!


By supporting adoption-friendly businesses, you are choosing to spend your money on more than just a pretty thing.

2. Throw a party where you get to use the proceeds for your adoption

One of the main adoption supporters in America that I know of is Noonday Collections

If you have a favorite Etsy shop or a local business, ask them if they would sponsor a sale for your adoption.

And then share the good news with your friends and advertise via Instagram and all other media sources.


Need I remind you of the excess our house holds, don’t tell me your house is perfectly kept????

3. Clean out your house and throw a yard sale.

See if others want to clean out their house.

Offer to pick up their unneeded treasures

and use it in your sale.

Visiting the library is a source of entertainment in lieu of more expensive options.

Visiting the library is a source of entertainment in lieu of more expensive options.

4. Check out your budget and

look for areas to tighten your belt.

We opted to share a car for the first 4 years of our marriage

which saved us car insurance, upkeep and

allowed us to spend more time together…

even if it wasn’t always convenient!


Homemade tapioca is a special treat and very versatile, served cold or warm. It’s easy to incorporate various flavors like chocolate, vanilla bean, coconut and extra toppings are an inexpensive way to dazzle.

5. Sell dinners.

You read that right!

Send out order forms within your church, school or community

and sell a home-cooked meal.

Choose a theme (Mexican, Italian, Vegetarian, etc)

and let everyone know that it’s a fundraiser for your upcoming adoption.

These are just 5 specific ways you can start saving,

please share other ways below in the comments!

*Note: I have included some affiliate links.

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